Self pity is a hole with a pile of leaves over it. It seems to be sturdy - who cares if you step on it? It wont hurt you - everyone else jumps in leaf piles. The colors and comfort of the leaves will make you feel better, right? But you never saw the hole. You jumped in, expecting comfort and peace but were left with lack of escape and an even bigger problem than you started with. You need someone to pull you out. They pull you out with a rope. Not with words that are going to feed your pride - words can't get you out of a hole. Not with a words telling you how great you are or how you deserve better - words can't get you out of a hole. They throw you a rope saying, "Come on up. We don't want you to suffer down their." Suffering. You suffer in self pity. It's not comforting. It's not going to make other people want to tell you awesome things about you. Its simply selfishness wrapped in pride and sugar coated with gluttony.
Jesus, when walking to the cross, did NOT say, "Oh, why me? I shouldn't have to do this. These people around me get every good thing and all the riches, and I get nothing. No one cares about me." He said things such as these: Phillipians 4:19 "And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.", Colossians 3:11 " Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all.", John 1:14 "The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth".